Thoughts on what else "to do," besides nothing. My sex tips for girls* (*girls who are holding on to mid-life by a thread). A dating odyssey for Young Olds, AKA, people with readers.
I like your analysis of this situation, but I think the only blunder here was Tom not saying something about wanting to go when he first knew about the invite. If Sally really wanted a date on NYE, maybe she could have discussed it with Tom earlier in time to suggest at least dinner plans (which would require reservations far in advance since NYE), rather than assume they would just wing it in front of the tv. I mean they have only been together a year. An alternate view from Tom’s perspective would be, “is this the relationship I want to be in, where it’s assumed we tacitly agree to do nothing on major holidays” or “is my independence important to me?” (As in flexibility vs control.) I for one in this scenario would be “Great! Have fun!” and then if I ended up feeling a bit let down, could initiate a convo after the fact about communicating in a timely manner.
Another epiphany moment from Abbe here! Thank you! This is my week of dope slaps, here indirectly, and on the Annex re my suicide post. Mike loves me, but he’s not brave or smart enough. And I’ve been trying to figure out why despite that things are comfortable and peaceful, this just won’t last. And today you made me realize! He’s not smart enough to know he has a perfect catch, or brave enough to have the courage to allow himself to realize it. Thank you and happy new year to my favorite internet companion!
I like your analysis of this situation, but I think the only blunder here was Tom not saying something about wanting to go when he first knew about the invite. If Sally really wanted a date on NYE, maybe she could have discussed it with Tom earlier in time to suggest at least dinner plans (which would require reservations far in advance since NYE), rather than assume they would just wing it in front of the tv. I mean they have only been together a year. An alternate view from Tom’s perspective would be, “is this the relationship I want to be in, where it’s assumed we tacitly agree to do nothing on major holidays” or “is my independence important to me?” (As in flexibility vs control.) I for one in this scenario would be “Great! Have fun!” and then if I ended up feeling a bit let down, could initiate a convo after the fact about communicating in a timely manner.
I see that. And Tom’s POV re is Sally smart/brave is also totally relevant. Thx for chiming in!
Another epiphany moment from Abbe here! Thank you! This is my week of dope slaps, here indirectly, and on the Annex re my suicide post. Mike loves me, but he’s not brave or smart enough. And I’ve been trying to figure out why despite that things are comfortable and peaceful, this just won’t last. And today you made me realize! He’s not smart enough to know he has a perfect catch, or brave enough to have the courage to allow himself to realize it. Thank you and happy new year to my favorite internet companion!
Ha, well “Anne” here sends you love!
Fat thumbs!
Hahahaha happens CONSTANTLY