This just smacked me in the face. Like a hard cock. My sex tips for girls* (*girls who are holding on to mid-life by a thread). A dating odyssey for Young Olds, (people with readers).
Thanks for the Upstate Mary shout out! I’m so excited for you to try our latest potion for your sexplorations… WILDCAT, out THC-infused lube launches on June 6th, available in NY dispensaries only. (Think FRIDAY orgasms x 10 💥😲)
I always previously put men into "their problem" territory and can't they just X or why don't they do Y. Why?
So, as an old friend came back into my life and actually moved to my city (he is 67) and from our first breakfast, I knew I would never be interested in a physical relationship of any kind. I did try to kiss him and it all gave me the ick. Not to be friends but to be anything more. He made it known in the first week he wanted to be in a relationship. He got divorced in January 2024 and it seems that once married men want to couple up again and fast.
I haven't felt much like even trying to date but wandered onto Bumble, matched with two and both were a hard no. I make it clear on my profile if you're looking for a hook up to swipe left. One unmatched with me after I told him it sounded like he was looking for a hookup. The other was such a douche, I had to block him.
But, after delving into attachment styles, I realize I am likely the avoidant. Picking men who have childhood trauma (don't we all) which I am happy to talk about for hours. Picking men with addiction problems. Have I really been the fearful avoidant when I thought I was anxious attachment? Clearly, I think (and after a therapy session with Chatgpt), I am a fearful avoidant / disorganized attachment type.
I see changes in my body but the younger, hotter unavailable men don't seem to notice. Well, let's be honest, it's been close to a year since the last time.
The truth is, I'm not sure I want a relationship. I've gotten very good at being alone and am pretty darn happy in my little house.
It’s so interesting when we learn more about ourselves after what we project onto others! Keep an open mind (says the woman who needs to do the same!) xo
My dear Abbe, I think you are overanalyzing this new suitor. You are magnificently beautiful, funny and smart!
Love this post and love you!
Love YOU!!!!!
You will love being in your sixties. All this settles into place, and fun awaits. Keep the faith.
The best way to see if the bike is a good fit is to climb on Girlfriend ❤️ wishing you lots of success 🙌
Thanks for the Upstate Mary shout out! I’m so excited for you to try our latest potion for your sexplorations… WILDCAT, out THC-infused lube launches on June 6th, available in NY dispensaries only. (Think FRIDAY orgasms x 10 💥😲)
I always previously put men into "their problem" territory and can't they just X or why don't they do Y. Why?
So, as an old friend came back into my life and actually moved to my city (he is 67) and from our first breakfast, I knew I would never be interested in a physical relationship of any kind. I did try to kiss him and it all gave me the ick. Not to be friends but to be anything more. He made it known in the first week he wanted to be in a relationship. He got divorced in January 2024 and it seems that once married men want to couple up again and fast.
I haven't felt much like even trying to date but wandered onto Bumble, matched with two and both were a hard no. I make it clear on my profile if you're looking for a hook up to swipe left. One unmatched with me after I told him it sounded like he was looking for a hookup. The other was such a douche, I had to block him.
But, after delving into attachment styles, I realize I am likely the avoidant. Picking men who have childhood trauma (don't we all) which I am happy to talk about for hours. Picking men with addiction problems. Have I really been the fearful avoidant when I thought I was anxious attachment? Clearly, I think (and after a therapy session with Chatgpt), I am a fearful avoidant / disorganized attachment type.
I see changes in my body but the younger, hotter unavailable men don't seem to notice. Well, let's be honest, it's been close to a year since the last time.
The truth is, I'm not sure I want a relationship. I've gotten very good at being alone and am pretty darn happy in my little house.
It’s so interesting when we learn more about ourselves after what we project onto others! Keep an open mind (says the woman who needs to do the same!) xo