Maybe YOU'RE the cringeworthy one. My ongoing sex tips for girls* (*girls who are holding on to mid-life by a thread). A dating odyssey for Young Olds, AKA, people with readers.
I have moved on from breaking up with men because I cannot stand their plaid shirts. But eating ice cream with a teaspoon? That shall not be tolerated!
I love the idea of assessing the ways in which we give someone else the icks. Nothing surer to create empathy in us. The part where I get lost is where a person (or maybe a character in a hit TV show) says "That's it. There's no getting past the ICK," because if that were true, none of us would make it with anyone else for anything more than a month or so.
Sometimes when I feel the ick about a partner or a prospective partner, I try to see if I can get some empathy to well up around it in addition to the cringing judginess that's the immediate response. But sometimes I can't. The person I ex-ed in January was way too impressed with the fancy gifts he bought me, and I should actually have paid attention to that particular ick the first time instead of the 47th...
Fantastic summary of the ick factor and oh so true! I've done the ick factor throughout my years of dating and relationships and also at some level believe I have no ick factors.
I have recently connected with a guy who was fun, cute, cared about me and I think I likely ran away from to hang out with a co-worker of his who was my typical pick which involved the word "unavailable" and "asshole" with a little too much love for being overserved (by others or serve yourself).
He is going to be coming my way in the next 2-3 months. This guy is my age (heaven forbid), still looks cute in his biz and LinkedIn photos and, we'll see!
I loved Nobody Wants This for the fact they both learned how to communicate about icky feelings and be honest so things could be looked at and discussed. Hot Rabbi always said she was not too much even when she tried running from the ick.
I have moved on from breaking up with men because I cannot stand their plaid shirts. But eating ice cream with a teaspoon? That shall not be tolerated!
You know what word I really hate on the ‘lost all meaning’ scale? Amazing.
I love the idea of assessing the ways in which we give someone else the icks. Nothing surer to create empathy in us. The part where I get lost is where a person (or maybe a character in a hit TV show) says "That's it. There's no getting past the ICK," because if that were true, none of us would make it with anyone else for anything more than a month or so.
Sometimes when I feel the ick about a partner or a prospective partner, I try to see if I can get some empathy to well up around it in addition to the cringing judginess that's the immediate response. But sometimes I can't. The person I ex-ed in January was way too impressed with the fancy gifts he bought me, and I should actually have paid attention to that particular ick the first time instead of the 47th...
Fantastic summary of the ick factor and oh so true! I've done the ick factor throughout my years of dating and relationships and also at some level believe I have no ick factors.
I have recently connected with a guy who was fun, cute, cared about me and I think I likely ran away from to hang out with a co-worker of his who was my typical pick which involved the word "unavailable" and "asshole" with a little too much love for being overserved (by others or serve yourself).
He is going to be coming my way in the next 2-3 months. This guy is my age (heaven forbid), still looks cute in his biz and LinkedIn photos and, we'll see!
I loved Nobody Wants This for the fact they both learned how to communicate about icky feelings and be honest so things could be looked at and discussed. Hot Rabbi always said she was not too much even when she tried running from the ick.